The Fourth Wheel

Have you ever had an experience where you had two great friends who have been dating for years while you remained the third wheel? Has it bothered you that no matter what happenend, it appeared that you couldn't hang on to some one long enough so that they would stick around, having you sit opposite of your friends with your date next to you, laughing along as you and your friends reminise on highschool and adult experiences? Yes, it does suck! At times, you may even find yourself loathing the way they express themselves to one another. There will be the occasional soft kisses, hand squeezes, and inside jokes they inform you of later if it isn't that personal. You are then sucked into this idea that you NEED someone to fill that extra spot; that fourth wheel so that everything's even. It's then that you begin to settle, bringing over someone different you wish your friends to meet once or twice a year just so that YOU won't be alone. Trust me folks, you're never alone. When most people think of God and how much he loves them, they think,"Well he's a given because he loves us regardless of what we do or don't." Yes, that is true, but wouldn't that make you want to express your love towards Him due to the fact that he DOES love us so much? We find ourselves looking for someone to fill a void that is not meant for them to occupy.  Duetoronomy 31:6 ask that we be of great courage and fear not for God will never leave our side. We have this undying fear of being alone when we shouldn't because God made woman to be man's helper.  Plus, why would God make woman out of man withoug providing him compensation? I don't believe its His will for ANY of us to be alone. Remember that he provides for those who believe and even for those who doubt him. Being the thrid wheel is not a bad thing. Matter of fact, being single is one of the best moments of your life. It gives you the chance to become stronger in God, commit to HIS standards (and not primarly your own), and even develop constructive hobbies such as reading, writting, sports, reading His word, and fasting because once the right person comes alone, you would have already established the great person God gave you the potential to be and they would be able to see God through you.  One thing to keep in mind is that when people are trying to replace one wheel on the car, they usually get something cheap just to savor the moment. They use something to assist them temporarily. If you're looking for longevity, invest in getting something of great quality and mileage; something that will last you for as long as possible. Allow God to filter your perspective and you will find yourself happy with or without someone because you know that God is quite informed of how wonderful you are. You don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend to establish that for that was validated the very day you were born.