Choosing Celibacy
No sex? You might as well say no cell phone or no food, right? Have we equated our sexual appetites to an everyday necessity to be met, regardless of circumstance? I recall a time when eating food meant sitting down at a table in or near the kitchen and using your cellphone meant using downtime away from work and from behind the wheel of a car. It appears that even such things are practiced outside of their domains, causing great harm to the consumer and those surrounding. It appears that sex has the same effect. Eating food in the car can be messy and using the phone under the same circumstances is just as harmful, so why do it? Do we not take precautions? And if we do, what's wrong with being aware?
Here's a question for you men. Which would you have preferred? Learning about sex via the wisdom of a male mentor, instilled in detailed conversation or learning on your own by way of experience and maturity? There are several ways society educates men on how to be protective in reference to their sex life (preventing STDs and unwanted pregnancies) while others influence men to protect their legacies by feeding their libidos like aggressive pit bulls. It's good to know that men are using condoms and undergoing annual checkups, but what about the men who choose not to participate in sex until a desired time, such as marriage or a committed relationship? Being a virgin or celibate isn't just circumstantial, but a committed decision made by men who value relational connections with others and themselves.
I'm speaking on behalf of those who hone their masculinity in withholding sex to better handle their desires and feed the inner need for spiritual and mental fulfillment. There's so much good in resisting one's urges and directing them towards beneficial entities, such as family, friends, sports, art, and one's work (referenced by Pastor Myles Monroe as one's calling). Men, it's okay to say no. It's time we are reminded of this. You won't get this type of message in the men's locker room, at a bar on Superbowl Sunday, or while playing Madden and Spades in the man-cave. This, among many others hard to find, is a safe place to be informed that your celibacy is valid. It doesn't lessen your manhood, but enrich it with knowledge and self-appreciation. There's strength in your resistance, my brother. Stay strong. Stay intentional. Stay committed.
Here's a question for you men. Which would you have preferred? Learning about sex via the wisdom of a male mentor, instilled in detailed conversation or learning on your own by way of experience and maturity? There are several ways society educates men on how to be protective in reference to their sex life (preventing STDs and unwanted pregnancies) while others influence men to protect their legacies by feeding their libidos like aggressive pit bulls. It's good to know that men are using condoms and undergoing annual checkups, but what about the men who choose not to participate in sex until a desired time, such as marriage or a committed relationship? Being a virgin or celibate isn't just circumstantial, but a committed decision made by men who value relational connections with others and themselves.
I'm speaking on behalf of those who hone their masculinity in withholding sex to better handle their desires and feed the inner need for spiritual and mental fulfillment. There's so much good in resisting one's urges and directing them towards beneficial entities, such as family, friends, sports, art, and one's work (referenced by Pastor Myles Monroe as one's calling). Men, it's okay to say no. It's time we are reminded of this. You won't get this type of message in the men's locker room, at a bar on Superbowl Sunday, or while playing Madden and Spades in the man-cave. This, among many others hard to find, is a safe place to be informed that your celibacy is valid. It doesn't lessen your manhood, but enrich it with knowledge and self-appreciation. There's strength in your resistance, my brother. Stay strong. Stay intentional. Stay committed.
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