Toxic Relationships: Saying No to What You Want
Have you ever had food poisoning before? I have...twice! It is not fun, at all! I wish that on no one, you hear me? It was totally unexpected. It sucked because I trusted the food I was consuming...and it was good, as it should be. That's how it starts, right? The taste overpowers what comes afterwards. You can be so stuck in the moment that you overlook the potential threat, but how would you know if you weren't looking for it? This concept is similar to developing relationships with other people. Everything is fine initially until things start affecting your insides. You become uneasy, irritable, and completely disappointed, asking yourself, could this have been avoided?
The answer is yes, but it's usually too late. It isn't until the relationship ends or starts destroying more than you intended, creating unwanted damage, that you probably start regretting. There is no collateral, no insurance to cover what comes as a result of such a devastating experience. Letting go of things is easy to do because they are replaceable, especially when you have the money to replenish. When it comes to people, that's a different beast...literally. We become attracted to the beauty, causing us to overlook the beast, revealing it's true nature. Our inner child holds on to people like precious toys, disregarding how hazardous it has the potential of being. This is something I've wanted for a while, we say to validate maintaining these connections. Have we ever stopped to figure the reason why we've gone so long without it is because it wasn't meant for us to have?
I can't express enough how disappointed I was to receive this revelation from God, of all sources. I came to the conclusion that if I continued to feed into this specific relationship, seeking something in return, I would be totally disappointed and disheartened. It sucks giving your best efforts only to receive the worst results. When you're trying, changing, willing to learn and the other person isn't , it becomes one-sided, uneven. You learn something about each other, having their best interest at heart. Selfishness is cancer to everything. It can taint affection in the worst way. You would assume that such ties between family and friends would last long, but not when something is killing the progress. It's time we start paying attention to how we treat each other. If not, we won't be aware of the damage being caused until something is destroyed.
Ask yourself before making one last attempt, is it worth it? Really think about that. Think about the energy you have been investing into this connection. Consider the time you can't get back in relation to trying to maintain what you both have been carrying, only to find that it's getting too heavy; that it's getting in the way of you becoming a better individual. I recall a relationship with an ex-girlfriend that was so poisonous. It made no sense for us to stay together because we were killing each other from the inside out. It was terrible. Why put yourself through such turmoil? You deserve better. Life is too quick to waste on slow-burning fires that are destroying what you spent love and time to preserve.
It's going to hurt, trust me, specifically when it's pulling at your heart strings. Isn't that what bad cholesterol does? Heart burn from bad food is a killer...and it can be avoided by being mindful of what you're deliberating putting in your body. Are you receiving good energy from this particular person or group of people? If not, time to detach. They're sucking life out of you like Blade without his medicine (Marvel reference). Remember that God will supply what you lose...because His option is always better. Remember that He's only protecting you from something of greater harm. I thought this specific relationship I'm dealing with was suppose to happen. Maybe it's not...and for the first time, I'm okay with that.
I can't express enough how disappointed I was to receive this revelation from God, of all sources. I came to the conclusion that if I continued to feed into this specific relationship, seeking something in return, I would be totally disappointed and disheartened. It sucks giving your best efforts only to receive the worst results. When you're trying, changing, willing to learn and the other person isn't , it becomes one-sided, uneven. You learn something about each other, having their best interest at heart. Selfishness is cancer to everything. It can taint affection in the worst way. You would assume that such ties between family and friends would last long, but not when something is killing the progress. It's time we start paying attention to how we treat each other. If not, we won't be aware of the damage being caused until something is destroyed.
Ask yourself before making one last attempt, is it worth it? Really think about that. Think about the energy you have been investing into this connection. Consider the time you can't get back in relation to trying to maintain what you both have been carrying, only to find that it's getting too heavy; that it's getting in the way of you becoming a better individual. I recall a relationship with an ex-girlfriend that was so poisonous. It made no sense for us to stay together because we were killing each other from the inside out. It was terrible. Why put yourself through such turmoil? You deserve better. Life is too quick to waste on slow-burning fires that are destroying what you spent love and time to preserve.
It's going to hurt, trust me, specifically when it's pulling at your heart strings. Isn't that what bad cholesterol does? Heart burn from bad food is a killer...and it can be avoided by being mindful of what you're deliberating putting in your body. Are you receiving good energy from this particular person or group of people? If not, time to detach. They're sucking life out of you like Blade without his medicine (Marvel reference). Remember that God will supply what you lose...because His option is always better. Remember that He's only protecting you from something of greater harm. I thought this specific relationship I'm dealing with was suppose to happen. Maybe it's not...and for the first time, I'm okay with that.
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