Room To Fix

Where I work, I see mothers coming in everyday with their children. Sometimes, well, most of the time, they are running around, playing with items that aren't meant for playing and messing up shelves, stepping on merchandise without a sense of decency. The mom is trying to shop, but can't quite focus because maybe the brother and sister are arguing and possibly will eventually initiate a physical altercation. While trying to separate them or prevent them from parading down isles, they happen to stumble across the candle isle (wax coated with glass). You hear something hit the floor and shatter to pieces. Since protocol says that you must tend to the mess as soon as possible, you make your way towards the isle to find nobody there but just a jasmine scented candle in the middle of the floor, surrounded by broken specks of glass that range in size from small to considerably large and lethal. You think to yourself, "why didn't she tell us or at least attempt to clean it up?" Well, not only isn't it her job, but she was preoccupied with her kids, trying to calm them down so she could resume her shopping. When it comes to relationships and something is broken (maybe our hearts, souls, drive towards ambitions, etc.), we don't take the time to clean the mess because we're distracted. When you're married with kids, it gets difficult to fix minor problems that will eventually fester and become full blossomed difficulties that may not only damage the relationship between the parents, but between them and the children... and oh, the children. If anything, they do not deserve such pain that would cause future psychological degradation. If you're single and you've just gotten out of a relationship that didn't end so well, yet you're so eager to find someone/something to replace that void, thinking it would suffice, take this time to clean up the mess. When you guys separated, something broke. A mess was made on both ends and you're not going to clean up the other person's broken glass. You have to tend to your own. If you don't have kids and you're not married, take this opportunity to attend to yourself. Examine your flaws and strengths, likes and dislikes. Try to get in touch with who you are, what you like about yourself, and what you want to improve. It may take weeks, months, or even years, but remember-before you can bring anybody else into the picture, you have to make sure that it's a suitable environment. That goes for your potential spouse and children because if your problems still exist once they have been inducted into your reality, the pain bestowed upon them would be indirect and destructive and NOBODY deserves that, especially if they didn't ask for it. This is very important, especially for men, for we are in charge of establishing a foundation. It's our God-given right.  Again, now that you're single and you find yourself running around, having fun and you break something, take the time and clean up because once you're held accountable for somebody else, your mistakes are secondary. Being physically alone sucks, but it's better to be isolated and decisive, aware of what you want, than to be with some one you don't trust and have become quite fluctuated with as far as the future. Now that you have room to fix what's been broken, either try to put it together and disregard pieces that won't fit, or throw it away and start anew.